yes.. you..
the mother who seems to be well put together..
the mother who seems to always have time to doll up when going out with your child..
the mother whose baby don't scream when he/she is strapped on baby car seat/stroller/baby chair..
the mother whose baby looks presentable all the time..
the mother who do not look tired and always smiling..
the mother who despite working, still have time to prepare different organic meals for your child every day..
the mother who do not mind taking your child out whole day and at the end of the day still looks happy and energized..
the mother who do not have a post-baby body problem..
the mother who has time to exercise everyday, this of course relates to looking good all the time..
the mother who even have time for spa or massage or mani-pedi on weekends..
the mother who goes out to watch movie with hubby (no baby in pic)..
you.. i am jealous of you..
but after reading so many reality of motherhood and how difficult motherhood really is, i sit back and say Alhamdulillah.. i am doing my best and that matters more than everything else.
sometimes i will talk about this with ajoy my husband.. and he will always always always kinda slap my face (not literally ok) with what reality really is..
the reality is, those mothers usually have maids that does everything for the babies for them. cleaning their babies, feeding their babies, cooking for their babies, etc. or they have other people doing those for them like mothers or mother in laws or sape2 la.. some mothers with maids insists on doing everything themselves, maids only clean the house. yg ni mmg hats off to you too.
as for most of us, we are parents who have to do everything ourselves which includes doing the laundry and cleaning the house on top of everything for the baby.. so excuse me for always going on with my usual jeans and tshirts and tudung syria - not pretty dresses or skirts ngan tudung lilit2. usually eyeliner pun tak pakai apatah lagi makeup lain.. hahahahha!!
*ni lepas keje. and i wake up early to make sure everything is in place (it is a long list, you dont want me to list what i do every morning)
sometimes the reality isnt a reality, it is only that one-time-moment captured and uploaded via facebook or instagram etc.. the rest of the time was actually a chaos. and sometimes rupanyer behind the wall of pearly white beautiful smiles hides sad n painful stories and facebook/instagram is only a medium for them to make them feel good about themselves..
and if your baby is like mine, those moments captured while ayra is in the car seat or stroller, doesnt last through out the journey.. i am seriously lucky or feel awed if she didnt make a sound the whole journey!! this usually happens when she forgot i was in the car.. yes, she is usually very well mannered when she is with her daddy.. the moment she hears my voice she'll immediately jadi mengada2!! kihkihkih..
the mother who has time to exercise everyday and go to spa, massage, etc are usually celebrities.. they have people to do everything else for them so mmg la have time to pamper themselves! like me, nak pegi exercise once a week an hour pun sometimes rasa bersalah mintak ajoy jagakan ayra.. but he really doesnt mind.. lagi pun, when i feel good about myself, i will be more positive at home and at work too tul tak hehehe..
i admit i do have my meltdown moments.. sometimes i do feel really tired.. and i understand those mommy blogs who said but it is worth it.. and i understand when they share that despite all that when your child says i love you, all those fatigues goes away.. as for my case ayra belum boleh cakap lagi but skrg pun da pandai amik hati when she knows m upset or her daddy is upset.. i am far from perfect.. but i am trying my best to be a good mother..
i admit i do have my meltdown moments.. sometimes i do feel really tired.. and i understand those mommy blogs who said but it is worth it.. and i understand when they share that despite all that when your child says i love you, all those fatigues goes away.. as for my case ayra belum boleh cakap lagi but skrg pun da pandai amik hati when she knows m upset or her daddy is upset.. i am far from perfect.. but i am trying my best to be a good mother..
soooooo.. as parenthood website say "It all comes down to this, parents: If you’re trying your best, congrats! You’re doing it right! Now, pat yourselves on the back and then go get a big cup of coffee or a heaping bowl full of ice cream or a big piece of cookie. Allah knows you deserve it — it’s hard work not fucking these little monsters up."
