aqiqah: hikmah & kebaikan

hehe.. apa la ke maleh benor nak mem-blogging sejak pregnant no 2 ni kan.. haha.. 

ok tp yg ni kena blog sbb nak jadikan my reference later..

senang, tak yah nk google2 cari info bagai nanti..

1) basic info about aqiqah:

Bagi anak lelaki disembelih 2 ekor kambing atau 2 bahagian dari lembu atau unta. Bagi anak perempuan pula seekor kambing atau 1 bahagian dari lembu atau unta. Untuk lembu dan unta dibenarkan untuk berkongsi 7 bahagian.

Hukum aqiqah dalam mazhab Asy-Syafi’e adalah sunnat muakkadah iaitu sunat yang hampir kepada wajib. Tanggungjawab aqiqah dikenakan ke atas orang yang wajib memberi nafqah kepada anak yang diaqiqahkan seperti bapa.

2) bila patut buat:

Waktu untuk menaqiqahkan anak ialah bermula dari sempurnanya kelahiran anak hingga baligh anak tersebut. Jika aqiqah dilakukan sebelum sempurna kelahiran maka ia dianggap sembelihan biasa yang boleh dimakan tetapi bukan aqiqah.

Penyembelihan binatang untuk aqiqah dilaksanakan pada hari ketujuh dari tarikh kelahiran bayi. Tetapi jika tidak dapat dilaksanakan pada hari ketujuh maka boleh juga pada hari yang ke 17 atau 21. Tetapi jika masih tidak dapat laksanakan maka boleh dilakukan pada bila-bila masa yang sesuai dengan kemampuan ibubapa bayi.

Jika telah baligh anak tersebut sedangkan aqiqah untuknya belum disempurnakan maka tuntutan ke atas ayahnya sudah tidak berjalan lagi, di waktu itu bolehlah si anak melaksanakan aqiqah untuk dirinya sendiri atau boleh juga si ayahnya melaksanakan sebagai melangsaikan apa yang belum dia selesaikan sebelum ini.

Namun begitu, hari yang paling afdhal untuk menjalankan aqiqai ialah pada hari ketujuh kelahiran anak. Contohnya, jika lahir pada 1 haribulan maka aqiqahnya pada 7 haribulan.

3) terjemahan sabda Nabi mengenai aqiqah (hikmah pertama)

Anak akan membesar dan berbakti kepada ibubapanya adalah bergantung kepada aqiqah yang dilaksanakan untuknya. Makna yang kedua ialah ibubapa akan dapat kebaikan di akhirat dari anaknya bergantung kepada aqiqah samada dilaksanakan atau tidak.

Dari hadis tersebut jelaslah tentang pentingnya aqiqah untuk kebahagian ibubapa dan anak. Jika ada anak yang susah dengar nasihat atau degil atau pada zahirnya menyusahkan ibubapa maka perhatikanlah juga dari sudut aqiqah, adakah telah dilaksanakan atau belum. Jika telah dilaksanakan adakah ianya sempurna atau tidak.

4) hikmah2 aqiqah yang lain:

a. Menimbulkan rasa gembira dengan ni’mat Allah yang telah membantu, memudahkan dan menyelamatkan ibu dan anak sepanjang proses mengandung hingga bersalin. Tanpa bantuan dan kasih sayang Allah tiada siapa yang boleh bantu si ibu dan anak.

b. Meningkatkan rasa syukur atas anugerah Allah iaitu anak. Anak adalah perhiasan dan hiburan yang Allah kurniakan di dunia seperti firman Allah dalam surah Ali Imran ayat 14 dan surah Al-Kahfi ayat 46. Dari sifat syukur tersebut Allah sayang hambaNya kerana sesiapa yang bersyukur pasti Allah meredoinya dan pasti Allah akan tambah lagi nikmat seperti yang Allah janjikan dalam surah az-Zumar ayat ketujuh dan surah Ibrahim ayat ketujuh juga.

c. Mengeratkan tali silaturrahim dengan memberi makan daging aqiqah samada kepada saudara mara terdekat atau sesiapa sahaja. Amalan mengeratkan silaturrahim akan mendatangkan kebaikan-kebaikan yang lain seperti lapangnya rezeki, diberkati kehidupan dan lain-lain kebaikan.

hmmmm interesting kan?? ^_^

2015.. after 4 months.. :P

Assalamualaikum...

Ya Allah.. lamanyaaaaaa tak jenguk my blog.. da 4 months tak post any entry!! hahaha.. so what happened since i last posted about 2014 in a nutshell for me? 

some might know this, some might not.. Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah i found out i was pregnant.. those who knows, we waited nearly 3 years (35 months to be exact) before i was pregnant with ayra.. so we really didnt expect the 2nd one could be this soon.. i mean, i thought i had to wait for another 2-3 years honestly.. 

and as predicted, morning sickness came to visit again.. and this time it was much worst than my first pregnancy.. i lost 8kg within 3 weeks.. and in total lost 11kg. byk kan.. 

having bad morning sickness that lasted all day long whilst having to layan ayra was a bit taxing on me as i was incredibly weak all the time. fortunately ayra somehow knows i was unwell and didnt expect too much from me.. ajoy was an abundance of help when i was down with my sickness too.. and for that, i am really grateful..

now alhamdulillah i am much much much better.. my appetite is back.. i feel more energized.. thank goodness for that because now that i am well, ayra pulak jadi super duper clingy!!! kdg2 geram jugak.. but i do understand.. ye la she wants all the attention she can get before the other one comes into the world kut..

nah belanja gmbr ckit.. i think the 2nd pregnancy ni, my tummy is much bigger than when i was carrying ayra.. gmbr bwh ni gmbr at 18 weeks.. besar kan????

2014 in a nutshell

ya Allah da almost end of december?? lamanyer tak post blog! hahaha.. ermmm macam la ada org baca pun kan.. kihkihkih..

malas nk type byk2.. tgk gmbr je la k.. here's my 2014 in a nutshell..

Wordless Wednesday

stabbed. slapped. punched.

i cant believe i am back here blogging about breastfeeding.. to be specific - fully breastfeeding.. almost every mother i meet wishes to fully bf their child.. if possible up to 2 years.. some aims only up to 1 year.. for some if possible dpt 6 months pun da ok sgt da.. 

for how long they wish, it is their choice. and for how long one wishes but ended up only fully bf for a certain time, well we have to accept that is the rezeki ALLAH bagi to us.. especially if that mother dah cuba macam2 cara nak boost milk but rezeki setakat itu saje.. lupa kut ALLAH yg bagi rezeki susu ni.. 

to begin with, it is a mother's choice whether she wants to bf her baby or not. of course we all know it is hak anak kita. so itu antara the mother and Allah and her baby la kan.. but for most mothers i know personally, all wants to bf.. 

so to you, who are bf-ing your baby, i say congratulations for taking that path. but for you to judge me for mixing ayra's milk with formula when ayra was 5 months old is totally uncalled for. you dont even know my journey.. you dont even know what i went through during those times before ayra accepted formula milk into her diet.. and you gave me that look and asked me "5 bulan je fully bf?? so skrg mix la??" and then siap ckp "i drank a lot of water. maybe u didnt drink a lot of water..", and added with i did this, i did that, telling me maybe i shouldve done those things. wtf, i went through all that already la.. baru 2 bln bf da berlagak mcm da 6 bln n aku plak yg baru nk start.. 

oh wow.. oh wow.. i felt stabbed. slapped. punched in the stomach. kicked at the shin.. there i was congratulating you, praising you for fully breastfeeding yr baby.. and that's what you gave me when you asked how long my baby was fully bf.. oh wow.. thanx babe.. 

you just finished your maternity leave.. you just started work today.. baru dua bulan beb.. it means you havent walked through the journey of working breastfeeding mothers yet. some mothers dont hv problems like i did, but i learnt many moms have problems keeping up the stock once they started working. even yang freezer penuh smpi tak muat pun up to one point had to mix due to working schedule, tak sempat nk pump, etc.. every mother has her own journey.. 

if all works well for you, dpt fully bf for as long as you want then alhamdulillah.. i truly am happy for you. but dont judge other mothers just because they mix their babies' diet. learn their journey first before judging. ask why. if that mother mmg decide once start keje nk mix pun suka hati dia la.. her baby, her choice. your baby, your choice. simple as that. 

tu belum tny other moms in the ofc lagi tu.. baru tny aku da buat muka mcm tu n tny soalan camtu.. to those who forgot, all moms in my office who had babies during the same time i had ayra did not fully bf, and ada yang tak bf langsung. i was the only one pumping at my ofc (except this one mom yg baby dia meninggal shortly after dia abis maternity leave).. mothers in my ofc does not support fully bf. their ideal is mix feeding.. lantak la kan.. masing2 punyer pilihan.. imagine dia tny mak2 yg lain ni, ntah caner ntah reaction dia..

sorry la kalau terasa tadi when i told you "every mom's journey is different. some have tried all they can possibly do but their bf journey tetap tak lama. nak buat macam mana. Allah yg decide, bukan kita.."

strange cravings..

bubur nasi for 3 days in a row..

baking obsession - brownies 4 times, marble cake, banana cake..

wanted to eat asam.. i dont normally go for asam..

and today, suddenly hv this strong desire for chocolate.. 

it doesnt help that i was bloated most of the time during this phase..

and when i was hungry i had Had HAD to eat at that very second or i immediately hv gastric..

vomitted and a slight case of diarrhea at one time too..

bad mood swings (poor ajoy time ni hihi)..

very bad headache..

sleepy giler tak igt most of the time, even today..

and no.. m not pregnant.. just a weird case of menses, or visit from aunt flo, or bendera jepun whatever u call it.. most of the time i call it pe'ot.. 

whats rather annoying and scary is that all those i mentioned are the exact same signs of pregnancy too.. i hate it when my body gets confused between bendera jepun and pregnancy and is giving me all these weird signs and symptoms.. 

buat org takut jer b4 aunt flo came knocking on my door hahahaha.. and now that 'she' is here, how come m still acting all preggers?? so weirdddddd... tak pernah mcm ni ok..

every minute counts

working in damansara. staying in shah alam. ayra in shah alam.

the time we have when we reach home up to ayra's bedtime is very limited. unless for some reason we reach our home before 7pm. which is very rarely. and this can only happen if ajoy fetch ayra first.. we usually arrive home around 730pm - 8pm.. if not, lagi lambat sampai rumah.. if ayra is at my PIL's house, sometimes we reach our home ard 830pm - 9pm.. mmg lambat..

what time is ayra's bedtime? 930pm - 10pm..

significance of this post? i value the time i get to spend with ayra.. even if it is only for 30 minutes.. whenever we reach home early i will be very happy because i get to maximize the time i have with her.. why is this so important? for me, this is the time i get to bond with ayra.. study with ayra.. play with ayra.. this short window of time will be spent wisely.. not me lazing around watching tv or playing with my phone. because i hv such a short time, i make sure i make the best of it.. (i am using i, because i am speaking on my behalf. ajoy pun sama la kut hehe)

and i hv to eat too kan.. tats dinner time tul tak.. i hv to prepare food for me n my husband too.. so tolak time nk prepare food, nk masak, nk kemas, sometimes rasa tinggal sikit sgt masa.. tu belum masuk kemas barang2 ayra from Ibu's house.. tats why sometimes we just buy food.. takpe, yg penting to me is time with my princess..

sometimes when ayra is watching her movie intently, i will try to squeeze in some household chores.. but more often than not, all the household chores will be done after ayra falls asleep.. this will also include my me time - pray, shower, hp hehe.. tu belum masuk melayan ajoy nyer nak air la, nak itu la, nak ini la lagi tu hahaha.. so yes, ayra comes first to me..

i felt compelled to write this because i get annoyed seeing parents who are so in to their handphones sampai anak kat mana ke, anak buat apa ke semua tak sedar.. please please please!! jgn smpi jadi something baru nk sedar.. my friends and i once saw this mother who was looking at her hp all the time while walking from one point to another at a considerable distance while her children are just following her. never even looked up to see if they are following her. please ya, skrg ni byk sgt case, please jgn leka.. please.. ni baru 1 case.. byk lg other cases.. yg kat rumah pun, smpi anak meninggal sebab jatuh tangga, mak mana? sibuk tgk fb.. ish byk giler la case!! please la!

anyway, getting back to ayra, this short time frame we have we will usually try to teach ayra a few things.. i wish i can be as hands on as xiaxue (spore blogger, sila google sendiri hihi). anak dia pandai gila.. but with the limited time we have, we try to make the best of it.. we try..

so ayra, mummy and daddy hope that one day you will grow up and appreciate the effort we make for you k.. be a grateful daughter tau.. hehe..

ok last but not least, enjoy these quotes i got from pinterest.. ^_^

ayra and her weight

so we went to see paed yesterday just to check on ayra's development, esp in terms of ayra's weight.. we thought her weight has increased significantly because we could feel it when we carry her around.. 

but to our disappointment, ayra's weight at 15 mths old is only 8kg. the paed said she should be at least 9-10 kg and suggested that we give ayra appeton weight gain for infant. this one brand name i have actually feared for a long time, because of this one testimony i heard - in which this particular child who took appeton's weight gain product (unsure if its the infant drop or milk and taken for how long), grew up being obese. and he is a little on the heavy side. i was warned by his mother not to take any appeton's product. this warning have been embedded in my mind.

so it goes without saying that i was horrified when the paed suggested that same product. but when i thought back on the story told to me, i never asked the important questions because i wasnt aware of the product in the 1st place anyway. i didnt know exactly what product she gave her son. i didnt know how long she gave her son, and when she decided to stop giving it to her son. i will ask her as soon as i stop typing this entry. 

i did ask other mothers, and they mentioned they only give until their child's weight have reach its optimum and stop. and continue to maintain feeding the child without the supplement. and their children are not obese.. alhamdulillah..

anyway, i would love to hear other reviews and comments too. so please, i would really appreciate your opinions on this. 

p/s: my mother is against this, she is scared her cucu will turn out obese. hahahaha!!

i got stung by a scorpion

story of my life.. hehehe.. 

so last sunday there was a wedding reception for my cousin at his parents house at seremban.. this is what went down..

i was going to help giving out doorgifts to our guests with my sister and cousins.. ayra was with ajoy.. right in front of my uncle's house there is this small hill with loads of trees and bushes.. but of course i thought nothing of it then.. all i did was sitting at the chairs provided at that area. the chairs were placed half on the tar, and the other 2 kaki of the chair was on the grass.. right behind the chair is the small hill.. 

i saw guests coming in.. as everybody was getting up to greet them, so was i.. i took the first step forward and right at that moment i felt something so painful at my toe. the pain was so excruciating that i immediately bent down to swat away whatever that was biting/stinging me. the bending reaction was like a reflex. it was immediate. my sister cried out "whats wrong?? what happened??" i didnt see anything. i just felt something small. i assumed it was the big black ants i saw around the area and a few on the chairs that has been laid out for us doorgift girls to sit.. tats what i told her, "i dont know.. something bit me..", i sat back down and poured mineral water all over my toe. 

however that didnt help at all. i felt tingling spreading to my whole foot. ant bites dont do that, right? my mother immediately told me to seek medical help. "go find ajoy and ask him to bring you to clinic immediately!" mummy screamed.. so there i was trying to walk with my painful foot back to my uncle's house. felt like the longest walk. i was already limping at this stage. the distance from where i got bitten/stung to the house was only like 2-3 banglo lots away jer.. but mannnn it felt like the house was so far away..

got to the house and was relieved to see ajoy was there, feeding ayra milk. by this time, the pain travelled to my ankle.. somebody went looking for minyak gamat. ajoy said ok kut tak bengkak pun.. by the time minyak gamat was applied, the pain travelled up to my calves. i told everyone that the pain is travelling up. thats when everyone was like "go to clinic nowwww, go to clinic cepat cepat.." and bless my aunty who said "tinggal ayra dgn mak chah, gi clinic cepat, pak mil will go with you.."

i have to be grateful that our car was parked right next to the house.. ajoy had to papah me. he mentioned my hands are very cold. told him yeah m in pain sayang.. mind you, we were at seremban.. and alhamdulillah sgt2 there is a 24 hour clinic at taman sebelah my uncle's house.. we do however have to u-turn at the main cross junction of senawang/seremban. if u know where, u know what i mean. tat area is usually full of cars..

the moment i sat down in the car, the pain have already travelled up to my knee.. sbnrnyer rasa nak nangis da time tu but because my uncle duk sebelah (baby car seat is at the front passenger seat) so terpaksa la tahan n control macho hahaha.. so by the time we were u-turning, it went up to my pangkal peha dah.. at tat time i was actually wondering to myself, how far can the pain travel? and at the same time i was doing this breathing exercise that sounded like i was having contractions, at the same time thinking, i didnt even have to do this to give birth to ayra! elective cesarean remember hehehe.. all i could think of at that time was cepat la sakitnya hopefully i got to go to emergency (duhhh)..

i was so grateful the clinic was empty! ajoy told the nurse something, i couldnt remember and i was immediately brought to treatment room. at this point of time, all i wanted was the freaking injection even though i am actually terrified of needle!! 

the good doctor came in shortly after i was seated on the bed and shot me. he asked a few questions about where i was, where it happened, how the area looked like, you know, the standard questions.. and he concluded that it was centipede that bit me. i honestly think he got confused because he did say scorpion will leave 1 sting mark, snake will leave 4 because of 2 fangs atas n bawah and centipede has like 2 taring of some sort.. and then he said "lipan". i was like huh?! 

oh well, that didnt matter, what mattered was i was going to get better very soon. i did expect the pain to be completely gone after the injection. silly me. haha.. after getting my meds and mc for monday, we went back to the house.. took my meds and rested.. 

the pain comes and goes.. but after the injection, the pain didnt travel upwards anymore. i could feel the tingling subsided.. but when it reached my foot, it took a long time to subside. the pain will come and go, come and go and come and go the whole day.. 

when i was still at my uncle's house, my brother and cousin looked at my toe and told me lipan would not be like that. it would be berkawah or at least leave 2 marks. mine only has one. and then there's this uncle (belah my aunty) who shared his experience with scorpion. it sounded exactly like mine. so everybody concluded i got stung by a scorpion. and the good doc was confused haha..

when i reached home, i tried to rest as much as i could. tp biasa la bila da sampai rumah, i dont really know how to sit still..  so i was here and there doing this and that.. even cooked dinner for ayra.. until my friend Mary said jgn byk gerak nanti bentan. ok that got me to sit down and let ajoy take over.. hehehe..

i took the meds for the last time that day and i think the meds made me stay awake. i was wide awake until 3am. couldnt sleep at all. dont even remember what time i finally dozed off. 

6am, ayra woke me up for milk. thats when i realized there was no tingling or numbness on my foot anymore. yang tinggal was only some blue blacks at the joints of my big toe to the foot. 

i will post some pics of how my stung area looked like and how my feet look like.. not my actual feet la.. sbb kaki ku buruk giler hahahaha.. 

bekas kena gigit at my big toe mcm ni jer. mcm kena gigit semut je..

but my whole feet was red like this.. and bengkak mcm pregnant mcm ni..

this is baby asian scorpion. might me this kut yg stung me??

all in all, i have a lot to be grateful for in this situation. if i have widespread numbness which i did have as it was spreading from my toe to my whole thigh in a matter of 10 minutes, death may occur. apparently if the bisa reached my heart, haihhhh.. all i could think of was ayra.. i was also grateful kena dekat bandar, there's a 24 hour clinic nearby, practically sebelah taman je and traffic was ok.. i was grateful this happened with so many ppl that could help me.. and m grateful there is medication for this. all i could think of was other ppl are in worst condition than i am, so man up and face this head on.

from the first moment i got stung until i reached clinic i didnt scream tepekik telolong and wat nots because i didnt want to create a scene. the only thing i did was controlled my breathing. i was so scared that it would somehow trigger my asthma and that may make it worse. asthma usually makes every other illnesses worse haha.. and i was also concentrating and telling myself do not puke, do not scream, just breathe!! and the doc did mention that my asthma may be the reason the bisa in me travelled very fast.. 

so itu lah cerita dia. uncle yg kena scorpion tu kata bersyukur sbb tu rezeki kamu kena sting by scorpion. other ppl were like huh?? rezeki?? but i understood and nodded my head to him and said alhamdulillah.. tak semua org dpt share experience ni kan.. 

^_^

word-less wednesday

ayra has been super duper extra clingy to me lately. more than her usual. dlm keta pun nak melekatttt jer.. kat rumah asyik nak dukung jer.. tido pun nk tido on me while i am sitting.. i couldve sworn my lower abs are stronger from trying to get up with an attached toddler on me and my arms feels sore like i've done arms exercises - some of the good points from this clingy-ness haha..

i was asking ajoy "why do you think she is like this?? extra extra clingy sgt ni.." and ajoy reminded me to treasure this moment because come one day when she's all grown up and she doesnt want to cling to me anymore.. hehe tq for the reminder love..

and probably because last week i had to take a few days off to care for her while she was unwell. plus the long weekend we just had kan.. so perhaps she got used to having me around so much.. 

word less. not wordless. get it? :P