no children = unhappy marriage??

a few days ago as we were watching adam&hawa drama, the actress posed a question to aaron aziz's character which was something like "kalau betul happy kenapa takde anak lagi?"

of course as a childless couple i was taken aback by that stupid question.. bkn marah kat actress tu k.. but the scriptwriter.. it just shows just how little knowledge this person has to writing such script..

let me just share the statements/questions ppl posed to us just because kitaorg belum ada anak lagi :-

1) korang keje tak cukup kuat kut..

2) korang tak pandai kut..

3) tanya aku la, meh aku ajar caner..

4) ada prob rumah tgga kut sbb tu takde lg?

5) ko ni reti ke tak reti nk buat anak ni??

6) mungkin korang x cukup kerap kut.. buat lah tiap2 hari! keje kuat sikit ar..

sbnrnyer lebih kurang je semua ayat/soalan, but semua posed distastefully..

but what we've learned is just because the couple have had 4-5 children or more, doesnt mean they know nuts about fertility. yg diaorg tau, buat je dapat.. kebanyakan married couple mcm ni ok.. some dont even know what ovulation period is.. and i've personally encountered these kinda ppl myself. not that i blame them though coz they wanted to learn as well.. some ppl kan, even though their children are already teenagers, rupanyer they never knew about what we knew..

so please, dont ask us stupid questions like that.. even doctors would advice not to do it everyday tau tak.. i also know for a fact that some couple with children dont even do it anymore.. and some couple with children became unhappier once they have children.. some are only maintaining their marriage because of their children.. some dont even know each other anymore because they got too focused on their children and didnt make time for themselves..

i also know that there are many childless couples like us, who havent had the opportunity to conceive even longer than me, some more than 5 years but they are very very very happy..

so in my humble opinion, having or not having children certainly DOES NOT indicate a happy or unhappy marriage. kalau pikir ada anak confirm happy tu takde la couple yg ada anak bercerai berai and ended up making their children the victim of their divorce kan..

so in short, bodoh punya soalan, bodoh punya pemikiran, typical melayu punya thinking!

sape2 yg ada pemikiran begitu sila tukar skrg.. all that i've said above, is from my personal observation and real stories from those yg experienced it.. bukan rekaan semata2..